Ever seen a painter at work? Or collage artist? He has a pile of green scraps over here, a pile of ribbons over there, and lots of paints everywhere. Now imagine he had methodically organized his pile of green scraps, even though to anyone else it just looks like a big mess. You, trying to be helpful, decide to ‘organize’ this for your friend (in secret of course). Au secours! The collage artist comes back and has no idea how to find anything anymore. Plus, since he didn’t see you, he doesn’t know if he’s going crazy. Imagine this process on repeat. Your poor artist friend is going to end up just feeling confused, lost, befuddled and demented.
The world gives us all a package, like a big game of Secret Santa. You get a gift but you don’t get to choose it. And this becomes our responsibility. It’s ours to own and TO manage.
You are never a victim of your package. It is your own personal puzzle. In some ways you will be put at an advantage. In some ways you will be put at a disadvantage. In Buddhism they say that you choose your family based on what you need to learn, and learning from this you learn to wield the gifts you have to give back to the world when the time is right.
You go through life making decisions, failing and correcting, learning and evolving, in line with what you are set out to solve. Seen through this lens, the world, in many ways, is like a big scavenger hunt.
From this package you need to learn how to trust your capacity to speak your truth, how to listen to and to follow your heart, and make repair attempts and figure out what is wrong and why, and be willing and available to address what is wrong with courage, insight, responsibility, and ownership.